It's Your Choice

You can’t please everyone and not everybody wants to be friendly…It is a fact. We truly live in a cynical world.

I don’t know why it has to bother me when some persons think differently of me. Why indeed would one person’s judgment and behavior really matter?

My friend said that one of her friends said this and that about this and that…

I told her, why should it matter to you what they say? Or what they say about other people? Shouldn’t they need to be more involved with their own lives? Or with what they do and how it’s affecting the people around them?

Shouldn’t we be thinking more if we are doing something with ourselves? Or something good for others? Rather than spending countless hours bickering about what this person did with her life, her hair, what she wore, what brand, how she’s spending…

I don’t know. What satisfaction does it give us when we know that we have put a person down? It is so easy for us to utter things knowing that the person is not around and would not be able to hear, much less defend herself.

But I told my friend, there is no explaining to be done.. You owe your explanation to God alone. We sometimes don’t even explain to our parents, our loved-ones..

God has given us a free will. If we choose not to do good then it is our choice. But then we would have to answer to that sooner or later. We are responsible for what we do or say. We cannot put the blame on anyone and say they made us do it, because we have a CHOICE!

It is also easy to say that the persons who judge or criticize have some problems of their own but yes, we would also be like them, "judging" them…If your friends encourage you to be just that, then it’s time to think if they are really your friends. Because I believe that friends should encourage you to be a better person and not otherwise..

So what do we do? Be kind. Words CAN hurt but depending on the one who says it. Value the words of the persons who matter to you. People who know you and only mean well..the rest are just part of this fallen world who constantly want to drag us along with it.

But we won’t let them, because? WE HAVE A CHOICE.:)

Addie, March 5, 2007, Ozamiz City